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What type of wedding planner are you looking for

The question isn’t the type of wedding planner you are looking for but rather, the type of wedding planner you require. We have mentioned a list of wedding planners based on the type of services they provide, you have to see if they provide the services you are looking for and if they are doing so within your budget. We reviewed plenty of wedding planners that offer a combination of services, from just day of the wedding to even destination weddings. Wedding Works for example is a team of planners that would plan destination weddings in exotic locations such as Goa and you have planners such as Portland Wedding Planner that specializes in the day of the wedding. Companies such as Unique Wedding Planning specialize in Event design and also in management. Decor specialists such as Donnie Brown have been also arranging for some breath-taking decor in Dallas.

Not all wedding planners have an eye for design and not all wedding planners, who know design, have an eye for logistics. Usually the wedding planner you chose would either be, vision oriented, delivery orientated, or schedule oriented. You do not need an all in one wedding planner, just make sure that the planner you are thinking of going with provides all the services that you require and you are sorted.  Having a professional team of planners that will look after wedding preparations will put you at ease and you will be able to enjoy preparing for it.

Here are the types of wedding planners you might come across. Remember though, that we have clubbed them in groups and these might not be standard across the board.

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Planner who provides all the services

A full planner is one who does everything, leaving you not worrying about a thing. If your wedding planner falls in this category, they don’t have to do this themselves, they might get help from professionals in fields outside their domain. They would handle everything from timelines, to hiring, to checking on the venue, to the food and everything you would need. If you think your wedding is going to be very dramatic, or you just feel you want someone more professional to handle this and you cannot cut it, you can go with this sort of wedding planner.

The designer

These planners would be open to your vision, no matter how unrealistic, however, they would not worry about your budget or timelines. They would focus on the colors, the right fabrics, table pieces etc. They are like interior decorators but for your wedding. They would also be able to handle your florists, invitations and so on, they might have to get help when they are dealing with this, but they will get it done. Make it a point to get someone else to handle logistics and organization of everything, just as this might become too overwhelming for them. Someone more detail oriented and less creative would be cut out for managing them.

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Part time planner

These people are amazing for when you don’t want someone to invest all their time in planning your big day but you would like a few insights from a professional. If you just want advice, you would get it a lot cheaper doing it this was, as they charge an hourly price and you contact them just when you need the help. This is perfect for those couples who want to do everything themselves but have no idea where to begin.

The wedding day coordinator

This type of wedding planner makes sure that everything is on track on the day of the wedding. They would provide inputs before and after as well and they would help with everything, but you would see them running about and getting people to create your vision on the day of the wedding.

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Honeymoon destinations for you and you better half

Finding a place to make camp after your marriage isn’t easy, that too if you are looking for a destination that is going to blow your better half away. Although we do live in the 21st century, and most people are open minded about not being straight, not everyone is and there are a few places and people who might make a fuss about this. Mentioned below is a list of a few destinations that would definitely leave you feeling amazing about your wedding and better about your honeymoon.

Gambling on your mind, try Vegas

Everyone knows that Vegas is awesome, there are no two ways about it. The crowd here is amazing and what better time to make a stupid decision than right after your marriage, with your better half alongside you. You can find all the amazing people from history here, alright, they might be look a likes or doubles, but you could pretend they were the real thing. Stay at the Mandalay Bay, often called the Mandalay Gay because of its enormous popularity among gay couples. Other than it reputation, it has one of the biggest pools on the strip and there is a glass roof that favors topless sun bathing, if you’re into that.

Or you could hit the beach in Florida

Florida is a paradise for newlyweds, full of art, theatre and music, music that ranges from Salsa dancing to show tunes. You can choose and participate in a wide range of couple activities, from taking tours of the city to visiting museums, to going swimming and visiting the beaches. There are a ton of activities associated with the beach here like diving, snorkeling and so on. After the sun goes down, couples can head to clubs to grab a drink or two and dance all night. There are a bunch of resorts, hotels and many places you can make camp at. You are never too far from a place of your liking. The well-known Hyatt managed to come up in this part of the country.

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Ever been to Napa Valley in California

Napa, the best place to enjoy the feel of Italian vineyards. It is right around the corner, for those people already living in California. Furthermore, it would be a well-priced honeymoon and the scenery is definitely worth the time and the trip. You can also find some amazing cheese in this part of the state. Couples can enjoy tours of the vineyards, vine tasting and everything that comes with eating good food. Napa is also known for its mud baths and volcanic hot springs. After dark, you can have dinner at your lodging, in your fire side booth, with the person you love.

Try Hawaii

If you have heard about Honolulu, you have to try her urban beach, although it doesn’t sound like much, it is the best place to unwind and leave the worries of the world behind you. If heading to the beach to sunbath is your thing, you will find so many other people doing the same here, you are bound to make a few friends. The island even has cruises that are designed for the gay community, allowing them to socialize and get acquainted with others so no one feels out of place. The world famous Marriott Resort and Spa grabbed the best part of this well-known beach and you are now given the opportunity to enjoy this amazing view.

Sedona in Arizona, if you haven’t been there, now if your chance.

If you and your better half are the kind of people who like to go outside, trek or climb mountains, this is the place for you. This red and amazing part of the state is not just for the outdoorsy but for the artsy people as well. Sedona is located above the Arizona desert so people here do not have issues with the desert heat. Further, it is the best place for galleries and festivals cause there are places here that have an amazing view, not forgetting the amazing sunsets that this place would provide. If you can’t make up your mind about where to stay, you could always head down to the Hilton’s Resort and Spa, and crash there.

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What to keep in mind when working on a barn wedding

There are a lot to remember when you are planning a barn wedding. You have to find the right barn, for beginners. True, using a barn means you have a clear slate to work with so you don’t have to worry about your colors going with the walls of a usual venue, the only issue being, you are going to have to deal with double the work.

You have amazing opportunities in this setting allowing you to get some of the best photographs anyone has ever seen. Further, you could take care of some amazing decorations that normally you might have had restraints with. We have to mention here, although, you have a lot to work with, even the largest wedding planners find barn wedding the most confusing and chaotic. There is a lot more to this, especially when you have to deal with bugs, portable restrooms, people being allergic to various things, and the mud that might mess everything up.

Here are a few pointers that should help make this easier

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You will have to set aside a budget for barn extras

When we say barn extras we mean things you normally wouldn’t have to pay for and would come directly with a regular venue, like chairs, tables, lights and so on. In a usual venue the cost of the venue would cover this, in a barn, these things aren’t always there. You will have to think of items that might be very obvious but your barn will not have, like the tents, lighting, inside and outside, generators, backup generators and so on. When talking to the owner about acquiring the barn, make sure it is licensed and insured. If this barn is usually used to host weddings, the manager would definitely have a list of what you would require, if you manage to find the perfect barn that does not, you can always grab the list from a barn wedding destination and use it as a reference.

Rules of the land

You have to make sure that your barn isn’t breaking any rules or laws of the area that it is located in. Make sure you research and agree with the sound rules otherwise you might have an issue with the authorities who might show up unexpectedly and have to shut you down. Do not assume it is isolated and no one would have an issue. Further, be mindful of how the sound travels in the area and whether it would affect the houses surrounding you, no matter how far away from you they might be.

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Check out the floor

You obviously will be taking care of this inside the barn, but make sure you look after it outside as well. This being said you have to make sure the ground isn’t full of soft mud, the last thing you would want would be for your guest to be falling around and entering the reception all dirty. You have to also make sure you have taken care of the parking hassle. Sometimes cars sink in the mud when it is soft and when the driver tries to drive off, they make a mess of nearby cars or people if they are walking around.

Say hello to my little friend, you bugs

Make sure you have made plans for the bugs that roam around these fields. Barns are known for bugs and the last thing you want is for one of your guests to get a weird rash and associate it with your wedding later. You can have something like gift baskets on tables with a very prominent can of bug spray, preferable something that is odorless and doesn’t come in anyone else’s way.

Waterproof the barn roof

Just a safety precaution for the rains, I mean monsoons are usually seasonal but now a days, they just catch everyone by surprise. If it does rain, all your guests should at least be safe in the barn if not anywhere else.

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Paying for your wedding like the cool kids

According to statistics, your wedding is the most expensive party you are ever going to throw, people rarely have parties that cost more. People usually see the amounts that others pay on their wedding and always saying something along the lines of, Yea, that’s a lot, I would rather have my own Do it Yourself wedding. More often than not, people end up spending more when they have an idea like this. You start doing things yourself and after a while you realize that it is too much to handle by YOURSELF and you have to go back to the professionals you thought would be too expensive.

There are locations all over the country where weddings are cheaper than others but overall, this is still going to be the most expensive party you throw. This article isn’t telling you how to get a cheaper wedding, it’s informing you on how you should be splitting up your wedding tab. Time to start saving up.

Use a simple calculation keeping things, well, simple

If you have an outrageously large amount you should be spending in a few months to come for your wedding, break it down into smaller amounts, proportionate to the month you have where you can start saving up for this. So if you have a year to get married, you have twelve months to start saving up. If you save smaller amounts every month, it would be easier to get there. If the amount is still large after the breakup, you should consider extending your wedding date or making smaller expenditures in the month on things that aren’t necessary.

Further, make sure you add this money to a newly created wedding account, one that you cannot withdraw from unless it is for your wedding. That would prevent you from adding money to the account and taking it out shortly after. You have to realize your expenses and income and this would tell you how long you would need to save for your wedding.

Cut back on monthly expenses

I personally have an issue with buying t shirts with stupid things written in the front. I always wear these so they don’t go waste, but I spend a large chunk of my income on them. Cutting down on things like this would help go a long way.

You can also try things like cutting your cable bill altogether and spending time getting more exercise. Furthermore, you can try negotiating your phone bill. For a phone company, getting customers isn’t easy with all the competition around, so they are more than happy to optimize your bill to help you and indirectly help them. If you can cut it down by changing you plans, probably canning long distance for a while or something, you can save about $15 a month, saving $180 a year. If you can do this to your landline as well, you would have saved about $350 a year.

Stop on the ridiculously small spending amounts that add up

Try things like eating out less often, or reducing the amount you spend on shopping for things that aren’t necessary, just for the few months you are saving through. There are such minor things that we spend money on and don’t even think about it, cabs as opposed to the subway, coffees, packaged water, just think about it. Parking away from office so you don’t have to pay such a high amount in parking fees.

Time to pull out the big guns

You could move in with your parents to save on a years’ worth of rent. If you have two, try selling your car, if your better half has one as well and you don’t need yours. You would save so much without a car, yes it would be inconvenient, but you would save on car insurance, fuel and maintenance.

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Use credit cards the right way

If you are using your credit card, there is nothing wrong with it, it is a good payment method, however you should make sure you have a plan of saving up enough to pay it off, this should be done before the interest is added on the amount. Make sure you consider all this while using your credit card. You should definitely not buy things with money you don’t have, the interest would just add up and you would have to pay unnecessary amounts for no reason. If you have even considered taking a loan to pay this off, don’t.

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Investments for paying for your wedding, not the best idea

This could work but it’s more of a long term thing and you have no idea whether you would get that money or not later leading to the cause of debt you didn’t have to deal with. You can use this for a long term thing, like saving for your children’s college or your retirement.

Be creative

I think this sub point can be added to everything that I talk about. You could try getting a part time job, or selling things you do not require on eBay. There are a lot of things you could do, teach something you’re good at and charge a small fee, I know a bunch of kids in your neighborhood who would like to learn to play the guitar.

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Steps to be taken while having a military wedding

Military weddings are a bit different as opposed to your usual weddings, they have their own customs and traditions that have to be followed. You would have to research the customs and rituals that go around with national pride, the team they belong to and their loyalty to their country.

For you venue try one of their large academy grounds and military chapels

When you are marrying a military man or woman, they are usually pretty well connected, you could get your hands on an academy ground, which would make for an amazing wedding and some really good photographs. Otherwise you can try to find a military chapel creating quite the scenic wedding, with a whole lot of people in white. Remember that most military chapels have a lot of people lining up to get married there, so you might have to book it at least a year in advance. They do have a few requirements about you getting married here, but you should find them out and work on them. If you are not charged to use the chapel, you should make a small donation to the chapel fund.

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Check out your available Officiants

The military usually has people they go to when they have marriages, it might be customary you contact the same team. When you book the military chapel to get married in, you would have to sit down with the officiant for a few sessions before getting this sorted. After that he would probably make you attend a few pre-wedding classes, where they would counsel you and teach you a few things about your wedding and the wedding celebration. If you would like someone in particular to co officiate, you should talk to them before the wedding so you can allow them to do this.

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Remember to seat guests according to their military rank

If you do not follow this order, you might end up offending someone and making a few enemies of your own. You have to seat all high ranking officers in positions of honor, whether it is at the ceremony or the reception. There should also be a special position for the commanding officer of the bride or the groom. You have to also remember to add the other officers, according to their ranks.

Make sure you follow the traditional military attire

I know you might have thought of having the traditional wedding attire but you do not have a say when you are dealing with the military. They have to wear their military uniform and they do not have a say. He should even be wearing a saber, depending on his rank. He may also have to wear white gloves and other such accessories.

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Tips to give a good wedding speech

You might receive the rare opportunity where you have to give a speech at your best friend’s wedding although you dread speeches. Here are a few tips you can follow to make sure everything goes alright and according to plan, since this is a big day for you as the bridesmaid or the maid of honor as well.

Let’s begin by focusing on giving a good speech, one that keeps people awake and eager for more. After mastering that, focus on giving a better speeches than the best man. I bet you would have something important to say as well and people should focus and listen to you and here is your opportunity.

It isn’t a joke

Many can pull off the joking, childishness, laughing everything off and cracking everyone up but, you should remember not only are you talking to everyone, you are speaking for the bride and groom. Think of yourself as a story teller who has a task of keeping everyone informed. Try to be very professional and get this done very seriously.

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Don’t day dream and mention things that weren’t rehearsed

Make sure you are prepared and you have your script rehearsed. You should create and start memorizing pointers to help you with the big speech. Make sure you have people who have similar taste and know the couple, read and re read your speech so you can improve it. Make sure you are focused and do not mess this up.

Make sure you don’t miss anything out

Your speech should definitely be unique and personal according to your relationship with the couple getting married. However, there are a few things you should remember and always cover.

Mention how happy you are to be there and thank the couple and their family for inviting you

Include something that is personal to you and the wedding couple but something significant to everyone attending

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Give them a few words of wisdom for the life they will share with each other

Usually conclude by saying, Jenny and Jonny while raising your glass and make sure you have a sip

Mention a quote that is appropriate and you took some time to find

If you are good at reciting out quotes you can find one significant to the thought you were going with. If you do not find one, or you aren’t comfortable saying one, or it seems too cliché, you should consider skipping on the quote altogether.

Make sure you have a style and your speech is your signature

The best man usually mentions things that the groom and he did in the past, he would try to embarrass the groom and make a few comments about how he never thought he would see his buddy getting married so soon or something. You don’t have to have a speech that would be the opposite of his so they go well together, if you are a funny person, you can have a few jokes as well. Or you can try to outdo him in his speech.

The best speeches are short and sweet

If speeches are your thing, you are lucky, if they aren’t, you have the chance to make them short. People really appreciate short speeches, and if you were good, they would encourage you to continue and you could mention that you can’t and leave everyone wanting more. People are going to remember, what they want to anyway and there is nothing you can do to change that.

Make sure you have practiced enough

You should not be anything less than perfect. Keep practicing till you have all your basic pointers memorized. There might be something very significant that you remembered during your speech but hadn’t rehearsed for, make sure you do not add it. Just stick to the script. Nothing should deter you from giving the speech you have spent ages writing and creating.

Schedule everything

Make sure you have a planned schedule. Coordinate with the bride and the groom and make sure they have mentioned when they would like to begin the toasting. Sometime people prefer having it between courses of dinner, others don’t have a preference, so you can have it when you like. The best time to do this in our experience is after everyone is seated and offered champagne. Further, make sure you and the best man have an idea of how you two are going to take turns, usually going with, he first and you later or doing a duo.

Make sure you keep your cool

It is very difficult for you to keep calm when so much is happening in so little time and you would probably be busy trying to keep the bride calm and handle all this while freaking out at the same time. You might freak out a little and this is normal but no one should notice. If you are calm, that would be brilliant, if not, fake it for the married, or rather marrying couple. You can have a long nap after everything is over.

Use your imagination

If you find toasting too old school, you can think of something creative to do. We recommend keeping it PG13, but you have creative license to experiment and try your hand at something you like. We do not recommend breaking out in song or dance, but if you feel like that, you should go for it.

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Finding your Maid of Honor

This is one of the hardest decisions brides have to make, at least more often than not. If you had a friend, or someone you knew since you were a child, and decided she’d be your maid of honor, you’d just tell everyone else, that it was always her, you have been a wise kid and not you have nothing to think about. However, most people do not do this making this very hard. How do you keep relationships intact after picking someone over the other like this?

Furthermore, the tough decision just got tougher as you have to choose between the friends you have and the family you have to try so hard to impress, you would also have to consider the people who told you they would make you Maid of honor at their weddings and you have some more candidates.  Styling your maid of honor can also be a tough choice to make sometimes, as you do want him or her wearing something that they would be uncomfortable with.

Here are a few tips to get you started:

Math should not be part of this equation

If you were at her wedding but weren’t her maid of honor, doesn’t mean you can’t make her yours, you could be a lot closer to her now than she was to you then. You should not have a reason for inviting them other than being comfortable around them and nothing else. They should not have done anything in the past to blackmail you into doing this. Most importantly, you should know that all the people you would want at your wedding are there and you feel happy around them and that should be enough.

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You can always go to family if you can’t choose your friend

You should always pick someone you’re comfortable with and someone you want to be around, if your friends aren’t cutting it for you, you can always go to your family. Further, you can always use this as your trump card, if you cannot decide which friend you would like to do this and you know that picking one over the other would just ruin your relationship with them, you can go with family and make everyone happy.

You can pick more than one

I am not sure when this trend started, and it is something I am still not completely comfortable with, you can call me old fashioned, however, if you feel one of your friends is not enough and you would like to pick two, you can go ahead and do this. People have started doing this in recent years and it seems to be normal. Ideally I think there should be just one maid of honor, but what the hell, it is your day, go crazy.

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Now a days men are an option as well

If your best friend is a man and you are comfortable having him as your man of honor (the male version of Maid of Honor, I am assuming) go for it. People have been doing this ever since the release of the movie and it is something that is catching on.

Most importantly, you should be comfortable around these people and if you can achieve that, you are sorted for your wedding.

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Symbolic Marriage & Couple Tattoos

Symbolic Tattoos come in various shapes and sizes that you can express the powerful bond of marriage though body art. For some it is symbols that are a form of expression and for a few it could be ring tattoos instead of a wedding ring.

The various symbols of marriage

No matter what you perception is about the institution of marriage, whether it is a bond that tie you legally or religiously there are many symbols in our everyday lives that represent marriage.

Images

  • Double hearts
  • The unity candle
  • Doves
  • Butterflies
  • The infinity symbol
  • Images of your spouse
  • Love knots
  • Wordings :
  • The spouses birth date
  • The date of when they got married.
  • A saying they both love, such as ‘Love Conquers all’
  • A few lyrics of their favourite sing
  • A symbol of the love they have found, such asKanji tattoos with meanings like “Love”, “Adoration” or “Soulmate”
  • Names of their children

Creative Designs

  • Wedding bands on the ring finger
  • Ying and Yang
  • Puzzle pieces that match together
  • Matching prints

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Abstract forms of designs in the form of two circles interlacing each other and many other such interpretations are also symbols to a wedding tattoo.  This is by no means a list that is all inclusive as many tattoos describe a marriage are unique to the couple itself such as a major event in their relationship or even a tradition or even an important moment together as a couple.

It is highly recommended that you take your time in deciding a pattern and look at these three questions before you get inked.

  1. Talk to your spouse about it to know how he or she feels about it. If you are planning to get one before marriage, think with time to be sure if that is what you really want
  2. Ask yourself why it is that you really want the tattoo, this will give you ideas of what you like to get
  3. Would you want to include your partners name in it?

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